In a world where so many are disconnected by varying degrees of separation—via circumstances attributed to lack, need, and isolation—why are the people who claim to be about community so comfortable not actually and actively building and maintaining connections?
People in these spaces, people in need of communal love and connection, often only hear certain questions after a breaking point or tragedy reveals the depth of their suffering—or their death—due to lack, need, or isolation:
Why didn’t you call?
Why didn’t you ask for help?
Didn’t you need help last [fill in the blank]?
You probably need to change your [fill in the blank].
You probably have a disconnect or error in the way you exercise your faith.
But when attempts from those in lack, need, or isolation do reach out—only to be met with malice, prejudice, ghosted, or left on read—it breaks more than just the moment. It destroys faith. It erodes trust in human kindness.
“You will have the poor with you every day for the rest of your lives…”
—Matthew 26:11, Mark 14:7, John 12:8 (MSG)
These scriptures hit differently when you're the one in need.
My heart is deeply aware of how people who have, and those who have not, operate with a distinct line in the sand. We’ve all heard it:
"If you ever need something, just ask..."
But what most people mean is:
"Only ask for what I think you should need, when I think you should need it, and only if you look like you’re struggling."
If you don’t appear visibly broken—if you’re not on a corner begging, or if your needs aren’t publicly known—then you’re on your own.
Today, my spirit grieves. I’m tired. Because I know how it feels to be tired of always being there for others, only to be shunned or ignored when it’s you who needs help.
This isn’t a call for pity.
It’s not a performance of pain.
Not even rehearsing past trauma.
It’s simply what it looks like to tell the truth in a world that doesn’t always know how to receive it.
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